In readings that I have done this in the book, "Drawing Heaven into Your Marriage" by Wallace Goddard there is a quote from one of the chapters that I just feel in love with and have already shared with a number of people. "The Natural Man is inclined to love himself and fix others. God has asked us to do the opposite. We are to fix ourselves by repenting, and to love others." This is such a small sentence but it bring so much clarity into our lives on our actions and how we treat others as well as ourselves. We live in a world that is continually pushing us to look at what makes "us" happy and we should first look out for ourselves and then when we are satisfied and happy that is when that is taken care of then we can help other people. That is exactly how Satan wants us to be with our family's and our relationships. He wants us to think about ourselves before others and that is one of the easiest and biggest ways to disrupt the family or a marriage. Remember the first commandment. Love God and by doing so everything will fall into place when you put Him first!